"Lonely people tend to report being dissatisfied with their relationships and are often cynical, rejecting, bored, and depressed. They also have difficulty making friends, engaging in conversations, getting involved in social activities, and dating (Chelune, Sultan, & William 1980; W. H. Jones, Hobbs, & Hockenbury 1982). Their tendency to engage in minimal self-disclosure and be unresponsive to conversational partners often results in poor interactions that are unrewarding for both partners, which leads lonely individuals to feel dissatisfied with their relationships (McAdams, 1989). Both relationship dissatisfaction and difficulty with social behaviors may lead lonely people to seek online relationships."-- Helene M. Lawson, Kira Leck, "Dynamics of Internet Dating."
Hear that, folks? My constant pleas for comments are desperate cries for help that fall on deaf ears. I don't know how you live with yourselves. Seriously, though, what really struck me about this quotation was the number of studies (granted, outdated studies) that were conducted; those have to be some of the most depressing studies ever, both for the conductors and participants. I mean, it's one thing to suspect that you're conversationally awkward and lonely, but to have it empirically proven seems like salt in the wound.
Later Days.
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